Sunday, 22 December 2013

The terrible twos & becoming a big sister

Most people that strike up a conversation with Posey at the moment hear "Sister coming soon.  Helping mummy look after baby" or "My toys are mine".  Bless Posey :) only time will tell whether she understands we're having a real baby who will need lots of care or whether she thinks it's a doll!

I've had loads of chats with Posey over the months about the baby arriving and how special it'll be, but that we'll have to work together to look after the baby by sharing toys, going out together, reading books together and all getting on well.  Posey may not have walked until she was 18mths old but boy can she talk!! I'm not a competitive mum by any stretch but I will say Posey's verbal communication is pretty impressive for a child not yet 2.5.  I think the fact she can express her thoughts, needs and requirements in words keeps many terrible twos moments at bay as for her, the frustration of not being understood isn't there.  What I will say though, is she gets Buzz and me to herself an awful lot of the time and that is all about to change, which does worry me!!!

We spend hours reading to her, building duplo towers, playing at the park / soft play, going to the farm etc etc.  Posey is our lives! We both feel we need to do the same things with her once the baby arrives and also both still spend plenty of time on our own with her too.  I've chosen to bottle feed the baby from birth as I think that will really help me be able to still do things with just Posey and me.  She says "I love mummy and Posey days" regularly.  I really do too! I will express like Daisy the cow to get as much of the good stuff I can for the new baby but I do believe formula milk is just as good plus Buzz and I can share the feeds / bonding sessions with the baby.  We both want Posey to feel secure and like her world has only got better, not that some of her favourite things have suddenly stopped.  Posey also refers to herself as "Mummy's helper" often too, so we will encourage her to help us by doing things like sitting next to us when feeding the baby and showing the baby pictures in books, choosing outfits for the baby, passing us nappies at change time, singing to the baby and, as she puts it "looking after the baby in the car."  Hopefully we can keep any terrible twos behaviour to a minimum.  One thing is for certain...I daren't give the baby any hand me downs...everything is "Posey's!!!!!!!".  I think you have to puck your battles as a parent, and that is not one I will choose....

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Few pregnancy aches & pains for me + Nexcare review

I have friends who (I'll say this as constructively as possible) have moaned from start to finish during their pregnancies.  Although pregnancy is not an illness, far from it - for me it really is a blessing & I feel incredibly fortunate to be about to have my second baby.  Pregnancy related ailments can make you feel a little off colour from time to time.  I think I've gotten off pretty lightly both times as I've never had sickness, stretch marks, SPD, oily hair, skin breakouts or swelling in my hands & feet.  I have found ways to ease the aches I have had and so far am still as active as ever & really enjoying my pregnancy.  Here's a few things that have affected me and how I've overcome them:

1. First & third trimester tiredness.
It really does just hit you! Feeling tired isn't great, especially not if you're working or have other children (or both..). There's so much going on in your body during pregnancy that it's hard to sleep sometimes at night and then nap during the day as you can always rely on car horns, couriers, barking dogs & other people to disturb you!  A mix of Spa Tone iron supplements, vitamin c through freshly squeezed orange (followed by gaviscon to reduce the heartburn risk) and a nice Jo Malone candle has worked wonders to help me sleep.  My dream genii pillow has helped me stay comfortable and a mug of hot milk before bed really relaxes me.

2. Crampy legs - ouch!!! Pregnancy yoga taught me to circle my ankles on awaking in the night and keep my legs moving through the day (easy with a 2 year old!).  Thankfully my legs aren't too crampy now and I know what to do when they are.

3. Lower back ache - I have only had a little of this fortunately and it's been very connected to particular activities, eg. Leaning into my rabbit hutches to clean them, crawling around soft play with Posey, not bending my knees properly when lifting things.  Nexcare kindly sent me a Maternity Support to try and I love it.  I feel supported! It makes my bump feel comfortable and secure.

The maternity support is just 1 product from Nexcare's range of antenatal & postnatal products, retailing for around £38 in Mothercare and Baby specialist stores.  You can't tell I'm wearing it and it doesn't dig in or scratch my skin.  I will most definitely wear it for my remaining weeks of pregnancy.

4. Emotions! Oh boy, I have a fair few days when I could just cry! I have no other explanation for this other than there are so many hormones flying around my body just now that sometimes they take over! My solution? Meet a friend for a play date, take Posey to the farm (she loves animals), get a nice hot drink and magazine, retail therapy or get my nails manicured! Simple things....

Here's to a healthy, ache-free last few weeks of pregnancy :)x

















34 weeks pregnant!

Wow! So today I am 34 weeks pregnant! I can't quite believe how close the big day is getting but I sure am feeling pretty excited, and I do feel ready.  I think posey is excited but Buzz isn't quite ready...it will be a bolt out of the blue when things start to happen.  A lot of dads I know have been like this - they shut it out until they need to spring into action.  Not like us mums to be - we must be mentally & physically prepared!!

Today Buzz has taken Posey to the park & soft play.  He's had plenty of work functions and long days in the run up to Christmas so Posey and I have had lots of time with just the two of us.  Lovely of course, but pretty full on as she's now dropped her daytime nap and with my huge bump soft play isn't really for me just now!!

I saw my midwife last week & all seems well with the baby, thankfully.  She believes the baby is engaged though, so could arrive very soon or could stay put for a while yet.  Having had steroid injections at 30wks to help mature the baby's lungs, I feel ok about an early arrival as the neonatal-stay risk will be a little lower.  I gave my heart set on being in and out of hospital pretty quickly this time so things aren't too unsettled for Posey.

I feel good.  Between loo breaks, drinks, snacks, achy legs, baby kicking at night etc I squeeze in 7-8hrs of sleep each night, which is pretty amazing! I'm really on top of things at home & I've handed over my businesses it staff now so I'm getting plenty of chill out time.

My midwife dates calculated that Posey was born at 35+5 weeks but my IVF dates were 35+1 weeks.  Based on those latter dates if this one is as impatient as Posey I could be giving birth in 8 days time - what a happy new year that would be!!! Babies really do work to their own agenda.  I'm ready whenever she's ready to pop out.

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Sunday, 17 November 2013

My top nursery purchases

I think it's safe to say that kitting out a nursery second time around has been a lot more straightforward than when I was pregnant with Posey.

Being pregnant for the first time,  I felt excited but dumb-founded every time I went into a baby shop!  I just didn't know where to start.  Buzz and I were clueless!

There is a mass of useful information online and available through antenatal groups, such as NCT classes.  The best source of advice I found was experienced mums.  Mum friends who'd already had a baby or were on the second / third babies.  This time I pulled together a list of everything that worked well for Posey and I've bought it for the new baby.  She might be a completely different baby but at least I feel prepared!

So here are my best buys:

1. Bugaboo Bee.

Posey had an icandy peach.  I loved it and wouldn't have swapped it for the world for the first 9 mths but once I started using the microlite stroller for short trips I found the icandy heavy, bulky and a little awkward to keep in the car.  This time I wanted something that both the baby and Posey can use.  I wanted an adaptable, lightweight, stylish and easy to use travel system.

The great thing about the Bee is it ticks all of those boxes.  The baby's maxi cosi car seat can clip on the base with the pushchair seat still in place, rather than having to swap them.  The carrycot is a cocoon which lies flat in the pushchair seat, meaning no separate carrycot to store.  The idea Buzz and I have is that either the baby can be in her car seat or cocoon with Posey walking or on the buggy
 board, or Posey can be in the pushchair and the baby can be in the baby bjorn carrier.  Posey doesn't
use a pushchair much now so it felt silly buying a double.

We chose the Bugaboo Bee All Black special edition at £529, with off white accessories including cocoon, footmuff & parasol.  We also have a buggy board and maxi cosi adaptors so we can easily clip the baby's car seat onto the base.

2. Maxi Cosi Cabriofix and footmuff.

The baby is due on Feb 2, so it will be cold!! Mothercare ran a promotion recently and we got a free cabriofix car seat when we bought the Bugaboo.  It was great!  To save us flagging with snow suits and blankets depending on if we're inside or out we bought a footmuff that just unzips, keeping the baby either warm or cold.  I think it'll work really well.

3. Dr Browns feeding equipment.

Breast feeding didn't work out with Posey and I feel so scarred from it that this time my baby will be formula fed from the start.  I'd love to express too, but all of her milk will be bottle fed.

Buzz and I bought everything from Dr Browns! Their bottles were the only ones that agreed with Posey and stopped her being refluxy.  We found them after trying and giving up on Avent, Tommee Tippee, Medela and Mam bottles through wind-induced lack of sleep!

We have bought an electric steriliser, 12 feeding bottles (10 of which are special edition pink - yay!!), an electric bottle warmer and a selection of follow-on teats.

4.  Next Baby clothes.

I love shopping for baby clothes.  There are such gorgeous pieces in the shops, particularly in at he White Company, JoJo Maman Bebe and Le Petit Bateau.  Great for presents!  When buying for my own baby though, and knowing how many vests and sleep suits she'll rattle through on leaky nappy / sick / milk dribble days I wanted nice clothes that didn't cost me the earth.

I find that sizing is fairly inconsistent between stores and supermarket sizes can be huge! The baby clothes I have from Next though, are great-sized for birthweight, wash well, dry well, don't lose their shape and are stylish.  All of my new baby's clothes are from Next and I know they will be fab.

Note to friends - presents from TWC, JoJo & Le P Bateau though ;)x

5.  Bloom highchair.

I love them! They may cost £400 upwards but boy are they worth it! With the baby snug and 3 different recline positions you can use them from birth.  Posey has used hers every day from birth and is now 2 and 3mths.  I can't see her stopping using it any time soon.  She never resists it and refuses to give it to the baby! So we got another one....

The baby will have a white highchair and orange seat insert.  Her snug will go in the seat fully tilted backwards until she can sit unaided, at which point the tray will go on for her.  Having the Bloom Fresco Loft means she is at work top height in the kitchen rather than in a bouncer on the floor and she can sit with us at the breakfast bar.

What are your best baby buys?
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Into Week 30 of pregnancy!

Firstly, it really has been a number of weeks since I last blogged, so apologies for the lack of updates! If you follow me on twitter you'll have seen a few snippets I'm sure.  It really has been manic recently!!!

Today I am 29 weeks pregnant! It's a great feeling and I'm immensely proud of my big bump (which actually measures a little on the large side but we won't worry about that just yet..)

My second trimester was pretty easy going.  I felt fortunate.  I had plenty of energy, ate well, Posey was well behaved and Buzz and I did lots of preparation getting the bedroom ready for our new baby girl.  In fact, right now the only remaining purchase is the isofix base for her car seat! We 've delayed that as I'm having a new car delivered this week and will pop into John Lewis for a fitting once it's here.

So it's been very busy preparing the baby's bedroom.  Many people have commented on how organised I've been with it.  The truth is I'm terrified of having another early birth so want to stay in control as far as possible!  I was also aware that once my third trimester started the tiredness, heartburn and patchy sleep at night could start at any time, and boy was I right! Now most things are done I am spending a considerably greater amount of time relaxing and enjoying me time.  Buzz is being great with Posey and I've cut my work commitments right back, including selling one of my three businesses.  I really want to look after myself and stay pregnant for as long as possible.  If the baby arrives early I don't want to feel as if me being super-busy and un-chilled out as contributed to it.  It's world prematurity day today and I remember vividly the emotions I went through when posey arrived early and spent time on SCBU.  It was tough and I don't want to be there again.

I started a pregnancy yoga class in October.  I love it!  I sleep like a log afterwards and I find it very very relaxing.  I'll keep going as long as I'm able to.  I'd totally recommend it.  I've been doing some gentle TRX and Pilates with my personal trainer too.  I'll do that after the birth as well.  Posey used to sleep in her car seat while I did it last time so hopefully this time I'll be able to do it again, while Posey is at preschool and the baby is asleep! Fingers crossed!

x

Ps. I shall blog more about family, The terrible-twos and my top nursery purchases very soon x




Friday, 30 August 2013

Almost 18 weeks :)

Wow, it feels like a long time since I've updated my blog, and I guess it has been a month so I'm right!

The last month has been pretty busy and very soon I'll be officially half way through my pregnancy, so time really is flying.  My energy is well and truly back, and I feel like I'm making the most of my 'nice' second trimester.  It really is true that you should aim to do whatever big things in your life you need to do during the second trimester, as the first and third can be pretty hard going.

At 16 weeks Buzz and I had an extra 'reassurance' scan at a local private clinic.  It was so lovely to see our little baby rolling around and kicking about on the screen.  Thankfully everything still looks ok! We also found out we are expecting a little girl!  It will be so nice for Posey to have a little sister :)

It was also Posey's birthday last week so we threw her a big Peppa Pig party with 25 of her friends and more soft play than you could imagine!  She had a great time.  I used to dream of being able to have big parties for my kids during those years when I wondered if it would ever happen.  I feel very very fortunate to be able to hold those parties now.

My third business has also taken off well, which I'm really round of.  I shall milk it as much as possible before taking a little time off in the new year as my due date approaches!

Another thing I've been doing is writing my list of baby purchases.  We pretty much gave away or sold everything we used when Posey was a baby as I felt like I needed closure in case we were never lucky enough to have another child.  So I'm getting pretty excited abut hitting John Lewis, JoJo Maman Bebe and Next to start buying for our baby.  We're having her bedroom decorated when I'm around 22 weeks so after that we'll buy the furniture, blind, curtains and everything else she'll need.  We're also having new carpets fitted when I'll be around 24 weeks so that will be nice!  I kind of feel like 34 weeks is 'time up' for 2 reasons.  Firstly, I'll be 34 wees at Christmas and it would be great to just focus on enjoying Christmas with Buzz and Posey rather than feel in a rush to get the baby's room ready.  Secondly, Posey arrived at 35 weeks so I'm terrified the new baby will be earlier!  So weeks 22-34 are going to be very busy with decorating, carpet fitting, baby buying and generally us getting ready!

Our next stop is my 20 week scan.  That is on September 18, so is not far away at all.  Fingers crossed everything with the baby will still look like it's developing well and we will get some more lovely pictures of our beautiful baby girl x

Monday, 29 July 2013

Second trimester here I come!

So today I am 13 weeks pregnant.  13 weeks and I'm still struggling to believe I'm fortunate enough for this to be happening to me again and also spending much of my time wondering if I really am pregnant or if it's a dream!

Last week Buzz and I went together for our 12 week scan.  We were pretty much straight in there (with a very full bladder...) so there wasn't much waiting around.  We saw our baby straight away on the monitor, moving and kicking around! We also saw the heartbeat and as I arched my hips so the sonographer could get a better view we saw 2 little legs & feet and two arms!  It amazed me this time (as it did last time) how much you can see on a little baby who measures little more than 12cm in length!  Our baby's face was very clear, we could see the nasal bone and we even got a little wave :)

Our baby is measuring bang on for dates, with a good heartbeat and the nuchal fold measurement was 1.6mm.  The sonographer told us that anything over 2.5mm would be a concern.  We have gone for the combined nuchal fold test this time so are currently awaiting the results of my blood tests in order for the midwives to work out our risk factor for Down's syndrome & other chromosomal abnormalities.  If we are a high risk, we will receive a phone call within 7 working days (we're now on day 5) and if we are lower risk they will write to us.  Hopefully we will receive a letter in the post and not a phone call.

Over the last week I've felt pretty good.  It was so nice to see our baby again and know that it's developing correctly.  We have told a number of our close friends & family this week that we are expecting a little brother or sister for Violet.  Everyone has been thrilled for us!  I have also done a little online shopping of the maternity ranges at Topshop and asos.com so I now have some lovely, comfy, fashionable clothes that will see me through this pregnancy.  I am loving my elasticated waistband jeans as my tummy seems to be getting bigger each day!

I have also launched my third business over the last week, which I'm really proud of.  Being at home being a mum and working as & when it suits me is definitely for me.

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